7 Rules to Stay in Love and Successfully Work Together

I was asked to write an article on love and work for a magazine and thought I'd share the 7 rules with you too...

If life is a game then that game needs rules. If it is to have rules then ALL the players on the same team need to agree within which set of rules they are playing. There is no limit to the number of rules you can have or the range of activities they cover. However what IS absolutely crucial is that you both AGREE what they are.

The following provides you with a set of rule categories and examples that we hope are useful in helping you define your own ‘Rules for Successfully Working Together’

1. Activity Rules - 'Activities you must (or must not) engage in, in your relationship?'

For example:

We must exercise together at the gym.
Complete a team building exercise once a year.

2. Behavioural Rules - 'Acceptable conduct you must (or must not) engage in, in your relationship?'

For example:

No discussing business in bed!
No carry-over of petty home issues at the office.


3. Communication Rules - 'Methods you must (or must not) use when sharing information in your relationship?'

For example:

Never shout when we have a disagreement.
Always respond to urgent requests within 24 hours.


4. Intimacy Rules - 'What level of intimacy is acceptable in your relationship?'

For example:

Kissing is allowed, but no sexual references at work.
Hugging is inappropriate in front of clients.


5. Location Rules - 'Where must you (or must you not) spend time together in your relationship?'

For example:

We must go on holiday to a new place every year.
It is okay to work from a home office.


6. Mistakes Rules - 'What kind of mistakes are allowed (and not allowed) and how often can they be made in your relationships?'

For example:

Infidelity is never permitted.
You can make any mistake once, but if you do it twice you'll be fired (even though we are married!)


7. Time Rules - 'How much time must you (or must you not) spend doing certain things in your relationship?'

For example:

We must spend at least one weekend together (alone) each month.
Spend as much time as you need when dealing with a customer issue.

Kind regards

Laura Ashley-Timms - Director of Coaching